How to Give an Erotic Massage

Get the massage oil ready…

Giving an erotic massage is one of the most luxurious forms of foreplay, it’s the perfect way to connect physically and emotionally with your partner, as well as turning them on.

Set the Scene

Start by setting the scene, find a space that is nice and relaxed and comfortable. The key factors for setting the scene include the temperature, lighting, and relaxing music.

Temperature- As your partner will likely be naked (or semi-naked), you want to make you’re your surroundings are as comfortable as possible to help set the mood. You should start by making the room warm as this will help your partner completely relax.

Lighting- You could also dim the lights or light some candles. Harsh lighting can be an unpleasant distraction during massage, so add some romance with fairy lights or candles.

Music- Play some relaxing music to help set the scene, it doesn’t need to be typical spa music or the sound of the rainforest, but it should be something that you know your partner finds soothing. Also make sure you’re in a quiet private area so there are no interruptions for you and your partner, and you can both entirely unwind.

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Accessories you’ll need

Massage Oil- The most important part of the massage is the massage oil; this will allow your hands to glide across their body easily leaving their skin smooth and nourished. There are a range of massage oils to choose from such as flavoured massage oils, massage oil candles, lickable massage oils… If you’re using a regular oil, pour some onto your palms and rub them together softly to warm the lotion before sliding your hands over your lover’s body in seductive, lengthy strokes.

If you’re using a massage candle, start by lighting the wick and let it burn like a normal candle to set the scene. As the wax melts it starts to turn into a warm liquid that can be safely poured on to the skin for a sweet-smelling massage. Remember to extinguish the flame before pouring the massage oil out and pour the oil onto your palms first to check the temperature! Then you’re ready to start your erotic massage.

Techniques

When delivering the massage, be careful not to press too hard or cause any pain. Your hands should be flat yet relaxed, allowing your fingers to splay and follow the natural contours of your partner’s body. Turn your partner on by tracing the contours of their body using your fingertips. Run your fingers through their hair, stroke their neck with your fingers, or use your thumbs to trace the gentle curves of their lips. All these soft touches produce excellent results and allow you to move your touch from one area of the body to another with ease.

Once you’ve given your partner a full body massage you can get onto the fun stuff and start teasing them…. Get as close to your partner’s erogenous zones as possible without really touching them. Massage around the breast instead of directly their nipples, you can massage the crease where your partner’s thigh connects to their pelvis instead of directly the vagina or penis.

After you’ve teased your partner long enough, then, and only then do you get to touch their sexy parts. By this point, they should be stewing in sexual tension, so even the lightest touch might make them moan.

Take the time to check in with your partner to find out which parts they enjoyed the most.

We hope this guide helps you, but remember to do whatever feels right, and keep practicing, if you and your partner incorporate erotic massage into your relationship it can help you to learn more about your partners body and bring you closer together.

Author: Mia Lewis